How To Let Go Of Fear

This reading came about when I had fearful thoughts, I had believed the fear itself was having some kind of power over me but my guides pointed out this belief and awoken me to the fact I am bigger than my fear and fear is just a feeling. It was an incredible break-through for me.

You are one with all that is and as you think, you create. As you think thoughts that are aligned with your higher self and your desires, they are accompanied with positive emotions. These emotions indicate to you, you're in alignment. Your thoughts are aligned and therefore you are manifesting your desires. 

So when you have thoughts that feel bad, you're thinking out of alignment and the accompanying emotion is your indication that your thought is not in alignment with your higher self and desires.

As we've talked about before, if you keep thinking out of alignment, ailments arise in your body.

Fear is a feeling that accompanies thoughts out of alignment. That is it. You do not have fear residing dormant in your body, you do not have accumulated fear from the past that gets triggered out of you. 

So then what is happening when something triggers a fear response? You have a belief that you are holding that causes thoughts accompanied with fear. 

You identify with thoughts and beliefs. For example, you say you fear criticism. Then someone criticises you and fear arises, your body reacts in fear and your thoughts are fearful thoughts. So then you solidify the belief. “See? I'm afraid of criticism!” 

What's actually happening is you believe you are afraid of criticism so you brace for it and when it happens it feels worse than it would have. Since you're readying yourself for criticism you become highly alert to it and even see criticism when it doesn't exist. 

If you were to be in a car accident you would be more hurt if you saw it coming and braced for impact than if you had no idea and your body stayed relaxed. This is the same for your beliefs of fear. Imagine you were in a car as a passenger and you were worried so you braced yourself for impact the entire time. You had your hands on the dash, stretched out arms, stiff and hardened. Your legs and feet pushed against the car, your legs held tight, your core braced. Now every time a bump happens you feel it! Every time the driver breaks, it hurts! You never experience a crash but every stop, turn and bump brings discomfort. 

This is what you do when you think fearful thoughts. Thought: “What if they criticise me?” Fear arises to tell you this thought is out of alignment, you declare this fear has risen because it has been living in you from forever ago. Because of your current alignment to believing you have a fear of criticism you are now connected to the timeline where when you imagine your past, memories arise to match your current thought. Then you imagine future events and not only do you imagine someone criticising you but you imagine the fear taking over. In your imagined scenarios, you build a belief “I have a fear of criticism!” 

Then someone makes a comment. You're wearing new shoes, instead of just confidently loving them yourself, you worry about what other people may think. The comment is “nice shoes, but I wouldn't choose that colour” You're offended, you're upset, because of your belief that you are afraid of criticism, you get very upset. Your thoughts spiral and spin out of control, you feel immense emotion. You blame them, you blame yourself… but if you didn't have the belief “I'm afraid of criticism” you wouldn't have braced for it with the thought of “what if others don't like them?” You would just think “I love my shoes!” With joy and pride and when someone commented, you wouldn't care. You would just know that's their taste and it's all okay. 

It is the belief that you hold this fear and then bracing for it that causes the fearful response, not a dormant fear residing within you rising when triggered. 

Fear is just a feeling. You don't say, “Oh I'm happy! My dormant happiness from when I was a child that I've been holding within me just got triggered!” So don't say it about fear, you feel feelings based on your thoughts and beliefs now which means, you have a choice of what you choose to believe now. 

Identifying with fear and making it something you believe is within you from a past time, gives it power over you. It cannot actually have any power but your belief of this is where the true power lies and the one who holds this power is you. 

The thing to change within you is not the fear. It is the belief. So in the example we gave the belief is “I'm afraid of criticism”. Transcend the belief not by thinking it's opposite such as “I'm not afraid of criticism” or “I'm comfortable with criticism” but “There is no criticism for me to worry about”. This new belief means when someone tells you the colour is not for them, you simply hear that they personally don't like that colour but it is not offensive. Even if someone were to say “Those shoes are ugly, only someone with no fashion sense would wear those!” You hear their own ideas, their own perspective of things and it doesn't necessarily mean you take offence because nothing has in-built meaning, you may even think ‘well lucky for me I enjoy having my own style..’ If you're unsure of how to transcend the belief, think on it for a little while, know the new belief will come to you, try out a few and you'll feel when it fits. You may even write out a few affirmations.

Here are some examples:

• There is no criticism for me to worry about.

• Someone's opinion is only as important as I let it be.

• I live my life aligned to my higher self and I'm confident in myself and my choices. 

From here you can begin to be grateful for all of your emotions, as they are indicating to you when your thoughts are positive or negative and in or out of alignment. You can let go of the beliefs that are no longer serving you.